Sometimes when you’re riding through the stormy waves of life, you’ll forget about the bigger picture — where you want to be and whom you want to be with in the future — because you’ll be distracted by all the itty-bitty problems that’ll seem to conspire against you.
A lesson learned from nearly a decade’s worth of relationship
The last thing my ex had said to me at the end of our nearly-a-decade relationship was, “I booked you a ticket back to the States.”
At the time, he had already been seeing someone else and in an effort to facilitate his new relationship, decided to book me a one-way ticket back to the States without warning.
I used to hate it. When I was a kid, my parents had often encouraged me to read. They would take me to the library, buy me children’s books and occasionally point at a kid who was burying his nose in a book and suggest I do the same. But why? I asked them. Why should I read if I don’t enjoy it? Reading just isn’t as fun as, you know, playing with Barbie dolls or digging up worms in the garden. “Reading will make you smarter,” they proclaimed. If you read a lot of books, it’ll help you at life.
I used to hate it.
Whenever an argument arises between me and someone I care about, I tend to evoke the same reaction: I walk away and ‘think about it’ until I feel ready to resolve the issue.
I know — it’s a childish move and I should confront the problem when it happens, but I figured that maybe, just maybe…