If you’re bored, you’re not doing enough
Whenever someone tells me that they’re bored, something pricks me, in the same manner a two-year old pesters for attention.
I don’t know why or what this feeling might be — maybe it’s annoyance or resentment or the fact that I’m envious that these people have extra time on their hands — but the fact that it triggers something deep within me must mean that it violates a value I hold very dear to my heart.
In this case, the value of time.
And from what I’ve noticed about today’s society, many of us don’t even know what to do with our time. We go about our day, bombarding ourselves with a ginormous list of questions that don’t seem to matter in the long run.
Should I watch some YouTube videos?
Should I grab a quick snack?
Should I text my friend back?
Should I share this interesting article with everyone I know?
What should I eat for dinner?
These questions, while absolutely harmless by nature, are the very ones that hurt us from ever seeing or achieving the success we desperately want, simply because it drains our mental bandwidth — which is, as best described from The Dot in the Ceiling’s blog as, “the maximum amount of thinking that’s available per unit of time.”
In other words, the more we think (about useless stuff), the less energy and attention we have (for bigger aspirations).
So when we constantly steer our mind, through years and years (maybe even decades) of practice, doing what’s easy and beneficial in the short run, things we think we would like to do instead of doing things that we wish we could do, we get caught in the dangerous cycle of always being unfulfilled and disengaged with whatever it is that we end up doing.
And what ends up happening is, we get bored.
Take, for example, my friend who’s been struggling with this dilemma.
He’s been asking me this question, over and over again, for the past three weeks, hoping that I’d have some idea to help him find fulfillment.
So I tell him:
Only to discover, the following week, that he’s on social media again, posting Youtube videos revolved around eating competitions and cute animals.
And saying that he’s, once again, bored.
At this point, what was I to do?
Why is it that so many of us go back to our old ways even though we know we’re unhappy and dissatisfied with where we are?
Isn’t it better to try something else that could make us a teeny bit happier? That could break us out from the shackles of ceaseless boredom?
Well, there’re so many reasons as to why our society is the way it is now: lost, unmotivated, unhappy, worried, stressed.
The biggest reason, and I’ll probably go over the other ones in a different post, is that many of us don’t have big goals or dreams to work towards that we believe is worth pursuing.
We’re so caught up in the small details of trying to make it through our day that we forget to step back and ask ourselves:
What do I wish to become one day?
What lifestyle do I want to have?
What do I want to accomplish and give back to the world?
These questions are questions that I honestly believe we should spend more time thinking about. Not just about how we should be more busy — should I squeeze in some time for friends? — or temporarily fulfilled — should I reward myself with a latte with extra whipped cream?. Because if we can figure out, early on, where our potential lies and what we ultimately want out of life, we can better forge a path towards greatness. Greatness that this world so desperately needs.
So the next time you feel bored, don’t feel bad — we’ve all gone through those gloomy moments, including me. But do instead, try your best, when you have some spare time, to think about what you could do, that you want very badly, that can improve your overall life and happiness drastically.
Maybe that’s finally going to the gym to lose that extra tummy flap you’ve always felt embarrassed about or working on that video game project you had abandoned months ago.
I don’t know! I’m not you. 😛
Just remember that as long as you have something to genuinely work towards, you won’t ever feel bored. Likewise, if you don’t have a big enough goal to pursue, you’ll always feel bored.