Most of us are told to stay persistent if we want to achieve our dreams. We’re advised by successful people, like Gary Vaynerchuk, to “do the right thing and put in the fucking work!”

And it’s true. Some of us do get what we want if we work hard enough for it. But for every success, there are likewise hundreds of failures. Call it bad timing, unfortunate circumstances or sheer bad luck if you will, but most of us will fail despite trying everything and giving it our all; and as a result, we feel like failures.

But let me tell you, that’s where you’re wrong:

It’s not about the results.
It’s not about the accomplishments.
It’s not about meeting expectations.

It’s about the experience itself and the knowledge you’ve gained throughout the process.

Because most of us focus only on our goals, we often forget the most precious part of our journey: personal growth. The things we’ve learned, the insights we’ve gained, the skills we’ve developed are all a result of the hard work we’ve put in and are all things that benefit us in more ways than expected.

A founder failing his startup can choose to write about his experience and use that instead to generate growth.

An author having being rejected 36 times for a book publishing can choose to write on the Internet and make millions instead.

A bodybuilder despite not winning any competitions will still be in the best shape of his life.

So what if we fail? At least we’ll have learned something in the process.
Every experience, good or bad, can double down as a learning opportunity. It just depends on what you choose to make of it.

Be proud not of your failures but of the experiences that come with it.

  1. David
    May 17, 2018

    Someone very wise once said, “Being right only reinforces our superstitions.” It might have been Einstein. He meant we should almost never expect to be right on our first try. We learn only from being wrong, then either changing our approach or revising the goal. We are taught to have a Fear of Failure, but it’s probably universally true that those who succeed are not afraid to fail, and try again.
    And again. Failure is no fun, but if we learn to embrace it as part of our learning process, perhaps the stigma, and the fear, will slowly diminish.

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