It’s f*cking rude when someone shows up late to see us. But it’s especially rude when someone doesn’t update you when they know they’re going to be late.

Like the other night, I was meeting two friends for dinner at 6pm. Because our meet-up was right smack in the middle of prime rush hour, I left the house three hours prior to shoot a vlog at a nearby mall, showing up at the restaurant 20 minutes early.

By 6pm, I could hardly sit still.

Man, I can’t wait until we chow down on the best seafood in town!

After 30 minutes, I texted them, asking if they were okay. No response.

After an hour, I called them, thinking something bad happened to them. My friend picked up.

Hey Tiff, we’re terribly sorry. We’re going to be really, really late. The traffic is just insane. We should get there in another hour.

Wait.

Why couldn’t you tell me this an hour ago? Why couldn’t you at least give me a text or a phone call to tell me about your situation? Don’t you know I’ve been waiting for over an hour already? Don’t you know you’re wasting my precious time that I could’ve used for exploring Thailand?

We all have 1440 minutes in our day. It sounds like a lot, but if you think about it, half of that or more is already used for sleeping. Whatever is remaining isn’t much.

Treat people the way you want to be treated. Value their time as much as yours. If you know you’re going to be late, at least give them a heads up, otherwise it’s just disrespectful because you’re not taking their precious time into consideration.

  1. John Adeyemi
    Nov 24, 2017

    This is a good read. I would hate it too if my time is being wasted by person who could have let me know earlier if they were going to be late to a meeting or a hangout. Giving this much thought, I find out I am also guilty of this and this post makes me realise that. I want to be a better person.

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  2. Martin Ekert
    May 19, 2018

    Great article Tiff! I can’t believe that your ‘so called’ friends messed you about so much.
    Personally I despise being late myself… to such a degree that I would rather not go somewhere rather than being late.

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    • Tiffany Sun
      May 20, 2018

      It happens and I remember I used to just accept it and pretend it wasn’t a problem. But now, I have to reconsider for my own time because it’s pretty rude to be late. Glad you see it this way too.

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