The other day, I received an email.

“I don’t know what’s going to happen a month from now after college. I’m not even sure what I want to do. Any advice?”

Yeah — just stop worrying. 

When people used to ask me what I’d worried about after college, I said being able to find a good job, figuring out when I’d get married and whether or not I could adapt to a life in China.

But now, after hitting an emotional rock bottom and going through the aftershocks of a 9.5 year relationship turned sour, I’d say, “stop worrying.”

Because that’s the thing: You can’t predict the future. 

None of us truly know what we’re doing, even if it looks like we do. When something unexpected comes up and ruins our intended plans for the future, everything changes. Things that might’ve mattered before might not matter much later, and that’s because our priorities, our attitude towards life, would’ve already changed.

So instead of worrying about your future, think about how to make the most out of today.

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.”
~Dalai Lama

Now I can’t say what will happen in the future, but as of now, the only thing I know is that I want to be true to myself. I understand I still have trouble with being genuine but I’m really trying to step past my boundaries. I really want to be able to talk as honestly as I write, to be able to express my feelings without worrying about what others think, to be able to find the courage to learn the things I don’t want to do, to be able to say what’s on my mind without feeling hurt. 

It’s hard for me to say what will happen a day from now, a week from now or even a month from now. And I probably won’t be able to ever, but that’s okay because at this moment, with this very post, I’m making a change.

And that’s a start.