The problem with finding love online

Everyone is doing it.

Everyone is rushing to claim their soulmate from date #1 through dating apps & sites like Tinder,, eHarmony and Coffee Meets Bagel, in fear that they’d turn old and become the last pick on the planet.

Including me.

I didn’t like the idea of it — dating someone based on a pixelated photo along with a brief rundown of their interest and hobbies. But I was determined to find someone who could fulfill my empty heart.

So I went on 45+ dates in 4 years, pushing myself to make things work with each date.

But towards the end, I felt more frustrated. I just couldn’t stand the cheesy pick-up lines, the nude photos and the awkward moments whenever a date tried to pull a move on me too fast.

And it made me realize that,

Finding love online isn’t easy, especially if you’re someone who prioritizes personality over good looks, or if you’re seeking a long-term relationship over a one night stand. Simply because too many people are skipping the handshake and going right for the kiss.

There’s not much deep conversation. Nor are there special commitments. Dates just treat you as a choice than a real human being (at least in the beginning).

Now I’m not saying you should give up online dating forever. It‘s still possible to find love online. But that’d require both parties to put in the extra effort to understand each other until they realize this could work.

Otherwise, it’s probably better to meet someone in real life who shares the same passion and drive as you and puts you as first priority.

That’s all for this post. Now time to go get ready for my Tinder date.

Published by Tiffany Sun

I’m rebuilding my life by discovering who I am and what I’m capable of after being cast away and stranded in China.

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