As I’m starting to publish more videos on Youtube about my traveling, I’ve gotten more people telling me,
“You’re so lucky to be traveling all the time. I wished I could too, but I just don’t have the money.”
Yet the next thing I see on their Facebook feed is their latest purchase, a $300 pair of sunglasses, the top of the line yoga mats, a limited edition bag.
So why is it that they’re saying they can’t travel when they obviously have the money for it?
Because it’s not really about the money. It’s more about what they’d rather choose to spend it on and where their values lie. Someone who loves photography will always find higher value on things photography-related whereas someone who loves cooking will find it more reasonable to spend on things that are cooking-related.
Too often we’re scared to break out of our spending habits and try something new, like traveling, because we think about the risks and the disappointment that follows if we were to make the wrong choice. We think about our missed opportunity to buy what we’d originally wanted. All of these concerns make it easier for us to spend money on things we’re familiar with and will for sure make our lives happy and complete.
But if you think about it, there’s nothing that can really stop you from getting what you want. There’re always ways. Anyone with a real desire will do everything in their power to get what they want, even if it means sacrificing something they love.
If someone is sincere about traveling, they can stay at home to eat instead of ordering takeout — even if this saves them a few bucks. It might not sound like much, but a few bucks is still progress towards their goal of being able to travel. The dress that’s on sale? They can tell themselves to wait because they know there’ll eventually be another sale.
Getting what you want is often a matter of the value you place on it. If you’re say you want to travel but in your heart you don’t truly believe in it, you’ll find it’s much more difficult to make the necessary sacrifices. Because the truth is, you don’t really want it; you don’t really want to sacrifice what you could otherwise get instead of it.
The reason why I decided to travel was not because I expected happiness, but because it was a way for me to rediscover myself after being devastated in a 9.5 year breakup. My value on things to buy, foods to splurge on became lower in value and less important than me wanting to travel because I now had a reason. And I’m glad I took the chance.
Had I not sacrificed my own desires, I would’ve never been able to rebuild my life and change my lifestyle. I would’ve never seen the world and have such great stories to tell. It made me realize that sometimes you need to take the chances and sacrifice what you’re already familiar with if you want break out of your shell and widen your perspective. It might be uncomfortable at first, but from my experience, there’s nothing greater than being able to experience something new compared to simply sticking with what’s habitual.
So the next time you say you really want something, make it happen. It’ll be well worth the sacrifice.