>  Blog   >  Learning to Let Go of the Past
After our breakup, I’d often glance back at old photos, read our messages and reminisce about all the good times we had.
It obviously didn’t help with my situation, but it was strangely one of the few things that actually gave me comfort. Despite the pain, it felt familiar, in a good way — like rewatching your favorite cartoon shows as a kid and I couldn’t help but continue holding onto the past.

But one day, as I was transferring files from an old computer to a new one, I accidentally deleted everything. The folder with over 9 years worth of memories, photos, messages — poof! 

Everything was gone, just like that.

It’s been almost 4 1/2 years since I’ve deleted the folder and now I have to say, I’m glad it happened.

If I hadn’t, I might’ve still been reminiscing and holding on to the past. Who knows if I could’ve become the person I am today?

Looking back at the whole experience, it’s made me realize that the only way to build a promising future is if you give up on the past.

It might feel good to hold onto your past now, but what happens when those feelings are gone?

Sometimes it’s better just to let everything go. Anything that has to do with the past, delete it — photos, text, emails, everything. It might be one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do, but the sooner you do it, the sooner you have a chance at rebuilding your life.

I’m rebuilding my life by discovering who I am, learning what I’m capable of after a 9 year heartbreak that left me stranded in China.