Not in the sense that I’d left it in tangles or bleached the living s*** out of it. But more like I didn’t try to make it look nice.
[Me plopping down at the dinner table with my family, fluffing up the rice on my plate (as usual), this time with shorter hair]
*dad looks up*
“You know, you should change up your hairstyle….like your sisters do. It gets boring, because you always choose the same thing.”
Layered. V-shape in the back. 2-inch trim.
It’s what I’d been requesting to my hairstylist for YEARS. Simply because I knew nothing could go wrong with this look. I mean it matched my face and personality perfectly, so…
But then I thought about my dad’s words and what he wanted me to do. Without realizing, a chill ran down my skin.
But what if my hair looks ugly? What would other people say? Would I be treated any less?
The consequences were too ugly for me to consider a new look. So to save myself from future embarrassment, I kept my hair as it was — long, straight and black.
(Btw, Jason Fried is one of the people I truly look up to. He’s an inspiring entrepreneur, speaker and author.)
The message Jason brought up in this 3-minute post was enough to change my entire attitude towards trying new things.
“Whenever I dive into something new, I try to find at least one ‘why the hell not?’ moment.”
It made me think, what’s the worst that could happen? You won’t die or lose everything that you own. At most, you play off your mistakes and use it for a new experience.
I thought about my dad’s words again, this time with clearer insight, about changing my hair. And realized that my fear of looking ugly was holding me back from discovering the confident, determined side of me.
If I want to see my potential, I need to take risks. And give myself the chance to learn from new experiences — good or bad.
Otherwise, my usual “what ifs” will constantly drag me down from being better.
That said, I did the unthinkable and dyed my entire hair blonde.
And never once regretted it.
“Don’t be afraid to try something new. You never know how it may change your life.”