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I admit, I forget a LOT of things. It’s something I wish I could regain back when I was restless kid, but that’s long past.


What I do remember is how sick my heart felt when my closest buddy passed along this train of deep questions, right after I threw every photo of “us” at my now ex-bf.

This is how it went:

Everyone goes through tough times at some point. Life isn’t easy. Just something to think about….

Did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?

Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated?

Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most?

Did you know the hardest things to say are “I love you,” “I’m sorry,” and “help me”? Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile to see how much pain they may be in.

It only took a minute for every word to sink into my head until I realized I’d been taken for granted, for years. What should have been a “thank you” became silence. The times I asked for help turned into broken promises.

Unappreciated. Alone. Helpless. Depressed.

That’s everything I felt in one minute.

But now, I know I don’t deserve someone who doesn’t give a second thought about me. And I promise myself I will never, EVER, allow myself to relive those moments.

Don’t be blind as I was.

Don’t sacrifice your life to someone who doesn’t value you as much as you value them.

The last thing I ask, is to take a minute to think about those questions. Because who knows, it might change everything you are now.

I’m rebuilding my life by discovering who I am, learning what I’m capable of after a 9 year heartbreak that left me stranded in China.